There are times that make me want to pinch myself to see if it’s really real- really real that I’m sober, that I write a blog, that people read it and feel the same way I do. That people read it and feel like I have had a good thing to say, or that it made them feel better. There are other blogs that do that for me, too. Oh for the love of…me is one of them.
In my time here in soberspace I have met only one other sober blogger in person. That person is Sherry. I liked her blog from the get go, at first mostly because at the end she says Namaste and that’s one of my all time favorite words. Then I got to know her and realized that we are so similar- that we both come from the places of fear and broken hearts but we are still honoring our light. And then we spent a day together and I got to see her strength and grace in person. She is a truthful, kind, open hearted woman. I am honored that she called me someone who inspires her and makes her happy. Takes one to know one, sister.
What am I working on now?
I’m working on my physical health- getting things sorted out from years of abusing my body with booze, cigarettes, and general mean-ness to self. I have taken a break from the mental therapy and am trying to feel the best I can physically. It has helped me so much to be able to fix some concrete things and not just be searching for answers about why I needed to drink for twenty five years to be able to deal with life. Feeling healthy makes me feel safe. I’m working on slowing down, taking deep breaths, and pausing. I’m also working out how I can have both Tara Brach and Anne Lamott as my neighbors.
I’m always thinking about the big beautiful book I’m working on. And by book I mean the one I haven’t “officially” started or even really planned but I think I’ll know when it’s time.
How does my work differ from others in this genre?
I think we are all so particularly lovely in our differences. I spent most of my life trying to fit in with the ideas of others, so my blog gives me the license I need to be the person I am whether I fit in or not. That being said I think we are all so comfortingly similar that fitting in here feels good. I try to keep my focus on sobriety: how it affects my life, and the changes that happen because of it.
Why do I write/create what I do?
I feel such a tenderness for this blog- it has saved me and saved me over and over again. Some of my very biggest moments have come when I was sitting at my desk typing away trying to work out how to say what I’m trying to say in a way that feels right. It’s my place: mine. The only person it has to please is me, or no one. That other people like it is one of my biggest reasons I feel grateful to write it. I need to be able to put the things that run around in my head on a track so they can finish. Otherwise I just have all these loose ends continuously bouncing off the sides of my brain. I do it because I can’t not do it. I often fantasize about the places this could go if I just had more time, or money, or gumption. But you know, this has worked really well so far, so I’m gonna just keep going.
How does my writing/creative process work?
Something pops into my head, or I have a persistent thought. Or a book I’m reading grabs me in a way I want to share. The things I write about are things that make my sobriety easier, that make my life feel easier. I usually write and post in one sitting- very rarely do I work on something more than the hour or so it takes me to write it. I used to get up at the crack of dawn to write when I first got sober, but now I just write it in when I feel it. Like now- one o’clock in the afternoon, music playing, kids content. So far I’ve only gotten up three times to look at what they’ve made, look at what else they made, and remind them to be kind to each other. Which means I probably have about four more minutes left.
Now for three blogs that I encourage you to read if you haven’t. And y’all can do this fun process and call out some more folks if you want to.
Thirsty Still is honest, encouraging, and a pleasure to read. I love how she writes about regular things and makes them seem so special. It’s like she has a day and then brings you along with her and explains perfectly how being sober makes it work. I feel like she understands where I’m coming from when I read about her own struggles and joys. Plus the added bonuses of delicious recipes and poems. I’m hooked!
One Too Many. Lilly is one of the bravest women you’ll read. She puts it all out there and keeps right on going. She tells of her struggles in a thoughtful genuine way. I can relate to all of it.
Tired of Thinking about Drinking is a great place to begin. I would be totally surprised if you haven’t visited Belle’s site, but if you haven’t then you could go join her 100 day challenge. She posts all kinds of helpful hints, and audio, and gives kudos every time to folks who are pushing their way through the days. Belle was my daily pen pal for months when I first got sober. She is dedicated and insightful.
Renegade Mothering. Dude. If you haven’t read this blog you should. Janelle is hilarious, smart, and totally human. Her blog is more about parenting than sobriety, but sometimes it can’t all be about being in recovery. So, she is pretty popular, and I don’t know if you can name people who have thousands of followers, but I’m naming her.